Ro - 2005-02-08 20:04:48
I don't know...I am struggling with this sentiment. I am not quite sure how I feel about everyone knowing my business, and I was hurt when a friend took my posts about my marital relationship and dissected them online, etc. I do, however, feel that if I am going to be a person who is authentic, that it is ok for me to be authentic in my diary posts. If there are individuals who read my diary and don't like what I post, they are free to think what they want, be angry about it, or check with me about my intentions, etc. Being that my diary is a small window into my world, I hope that people out there will take the time to realize that and thus not freak out about what I write- just as I hope that people won't freak out if I have a particularly difficult conversation with them, a distressing phone call, etc. I guess the point I am trying to make is that, in my quest to be my self and be authentic, I am risk-taking. That risk-taking involves me sharing me, and sometimes having others not like that sharing. I give authentically, and then I hope to get authentic responses back, authentic feedback, authentic checking-in. I don't want to encourage the censorship of my self according to others desires to see me as perfect, stable, whole, not angry at them, etc. Having said that, I am still careful to frame my language so that it is caring and its sentiments come from a place of honesty and, hopefully, love.
maggie - 2005-02-08 20:47:18
Hi.. just stumbled upon your blog through BE. I just wanted to say that I had the same issues. My mom was getting upset that I didn't include her in my blogs, while my dad and his gf were getting upset that I didn't have enough pictures of them and my cousins were upset that I didn't mention a weekend I spent with them - as if it wasn't important to me. My solution? I completely changed the URL of my blog and didn't share it with anybody! Now, I can type what I want, and only complete strangers can comment on any of it. It feels good to be able to still get stuff off my chest and not have to 'walk on eggshells' at the same time. Anyway.. good luck to ya!
Mom - 2005-02-09 00:54:06
Monica please don't ever write what you want because we will read it. We love you because of the fact that you always say what you feel, and are always truthful in what you say. Don't ever edit anything on our account. Love you always, Mom & Dad
LA - 2005-02-09 08:42:58
I struggle with that too. Where does my business end and where does my family and friends right to privacy begin? And since my diary is where I park my mess, folks come away with the idea that I am angry and wailing all the time. It's a puzzlement. ~LA
Heather - 2005-02-09 21:17:39
Yeah. Filters are a very good thing. But I can't say that I wouldn't love to unlock all of my entries and let the chips fall where they may. Bravery. I don't have it.
Clarity - 2005-02-10 07:58:35
I can understand and relate with your last entry, it's something I also struggle with. Especially now that I know my mother is reading my's hard sometimes, to find a balance.
Kirsten - 2005-02-10 19:06:44
I think it's absolutely, unbelievably adorable that your Mum (sorry, your Mom) leaves you comments. How gorgeous is that?

And you do brilliant things within the limitations you have set for yourself. I find myself returning here time and again because of your honesty and your obvious wisdom.
dreama - 2005-02-10 21:18:05
I have also had difficulty with this...I tried to be honest at times and it only brought me grief, until I changed the blog address and only sent it to a few friends, and NONE of my family. It just didn't work. But wouldn't I love to be able to post free in thought and mind...
J - 2005-02-11 01:11:49
I can really understand this post. It seems alot of bloggers feel this way, and some only "after" they have unintentionally hurt someone they love. But, at the same time, it is your place to vent, to write about what you feel is important. And it sounds like your mom feels the same. My family is the same. I am a pretty much tell it like it is kinda gal. They may see it on my blog, but they will also hear it straight from my mouth. Only you know what will be the best thing for you and your family. I found you through BE, also. Have bookmarked you, and will be back! -J

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