cat - 2005-03-27 04:59:06
Every mom/married woman fantasizes about what her life would be if she had the freedom to do exactly as she pleases. There is no reason to feel guilty about it MJ. You are a person, an INDIVIDUAL first and foremost; it is perfectly natural and healthy to want and to cultivate your own interests and passions. Okay, so maybe you might have to choose only those that your absolutely BURNING to do right now due to time constraints and familial obligations, but you can always expand your activity base as the girls get older and start moving further into their own independence. Just don't run yourself ragged okay? :-) Don't want anything unpleasant to happen because you're not taking care of yourself. *Hug*
cat - 2005-03-27 05:07:05
Damn, I don't think my comment went up. ARGH!! While I feel for Andrew, I am getting a wee bit frustrated with the inability to leave comments. Anyway, I left a note saying there's no reason to feel guilty for imagining what it would be like to have freedom from the obligations of being a wife and mother. Show me a wife/mom who's never felt that way, and I'll show you a Stepford Wife. It is entirely healthy, natural and NECESSARY for you to maintain your own life and cultivate your own interests, otherwise what happens when the girls do grow up and move out? You'd have nothing to do! Maybe right now, it's just a matter of engaging in pursuits that you're absolutely BURNING with passion to pursue. The others can wait until your schedule eases the girls get older and become more independent and involved with their own lives. I know, unsolicited advice...bad Cat. I'd just hate to see you run yourself ragged trying to be everything to everyone (including yourself). I absolutley agree that you must take time for yourself and your interests, just not at the expense of your health and/or sanity. :-D So...what two or three (extra-cirricular) activities can you not imagine giving up right now?
elgan - 2005-03-27 07:58:09
I have been belly dancing now for almost two years, and while I haven’t decided if I actually “like” it or not, since I don’t really practise between classes and there are lots of things I still find really difficult, I do like what it has done to help me appreciate my own body, especially the “womanly” aspects of it. I must admit that sex has never been so good since I started shimmying.
Jenn - 2005-03-27 18:42:28
I think about what my life would be like if I had neither a husband nor a child. In fact, my best friend is single with a career and I said to her, "You're so lucky to have a career and be able to just get up and go without any consequences." Her reply: "I'd give it all up for even half of what you have." And I believe her. I guess sometimes the grass really does just look greener on the other side of the fence. :) I used to feel guilty about thinking that way but I got over it.
Marcy - 2005-03-27 23:02:40
Why novelist, as opposed to writer, or author?
Becky - 2005-03-28 08:47:30
Just thought I would let you know that I did receive the interview, I just havent gotten around to answering the questions, but before the week is over I will get to it. Thanks. Hope you had a great Easter weekend.
J - 2005-03-28 09:46:39
I have to agree, ever mom, probably every person, at one time or another feels the same way. By all means, do NOT feel guilty about it. You will do what is right for you, and if that doesn't work out, try something else! I feel the same way, I like to have a mirror to see myself to see if I am doing the moves right. I tend to be very self-conscience about my body, especially in these activities. Sounds like your doing what you love, and that is awesome! Keep doing it, is is so good for you!
creda - 2005-03-28 12:48:03
Maaahvelous Dreams! I can definitely see you in a troupe! When I first started belly dance, I had that sort of dream too, and then it came true. I believe that holding that dream and calling it my own was magic, keeping me focused on practicing and learning and realigning my priorities to make that dream come true. So if you really want it, please hold that dream close!

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